Uncertainty and Growth

“Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books that are now written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.”

-Rainer Maria Rilke


This quote by Rilke is one of my absolute favorites. As a therapist, I love the message of embracing the process. While we are always seeking, we must also be patient with the process of growth because living life in the midst of the questions is an empowering way to live. Sometimes we learn the most in the uncertainty as we carefully and thoughtfully examine ourselves. If we foreclose the difficult questions or avoid them all together, we miss an opportunity presented to us. True growth involves steps forward and backward, but hopefully with intention and patience, one day we awake with a better understanding and revitalized approach to the concerns that have been plaguing us.